Never worry about results

In general, worrying about something that might happen is a waste of time, since often the thing you are worried about will never occur. So, you just spent time worrying, when you should instead use that time to take action to get things done. If you are worried about how you will do on an examination for example, replace your worry with time spent studying instead.  Be concerned but never worried about how you do.

On the other hand, you can’t change the past, so worrying about something that has already happened is not a good use of your time either. Start immediately to learn from any mistakes you have made so that you turn them into a positive. Remember always that your results are never permanent, since learning is a journey that continues for your whole life, and you should focus on making improvement over time.

If you only want to get the final answer to a difficult problem, you rob yourself of the struggle that leads to growth, and real learning. Students who are not concerned with understanding how to solve the problem will make random guesses for the answer, or even just take answers from other students. Just knowing the answer but not how to get it, is of no use. Instead, your focus should be on thinking carefully about each step of your solution. Doing this will lead you to the correct final answer without having to worry about it!

Many students are not used to having challenging problems to solve, instead being given trivial questions that they can do in their heads. When given one-step problems to solve, of course the focus will be only on the answer. These types of questions mean that students never learn to overcome obstacles after first struggling, nor do they learn the importance of correcting mistakes. As an example, students learn their multiplication facts, but often have no real understanding of what multiplication is, since they have never had to think about when to apply it.

In my opinion, you should always want to improve toward mastery, and even strive for perfection, while at the same time realizing you will never be perfect. In this way, you do your best to avoid mistakes by doing things carefully, but also you take action to learn from every mistake so you make progress over time. It is dangerous to be a perfectionist, since you take very few risks to challenge yourself, and rob yourself of real learning that comes only by way of trial and error. Will you be able to recognize success when you have not first suffered some defeat?

In your life, how have you experienced defeat, yet kept moving forward toward success? What strategies do you use, so that you reduce, or even avoid, worrying about your results? Please let me know your thoughts in the comments and thanks for reading!

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